Chaos in Ferguson. Sunday night, part 4
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- no, this isn’t over;
- no, these aren’t from earlier in the week;
- no, everything isn’t alright now;
- no, the police haven’t stopped brutalizing peaceful protesters;
- no, police haven’t intervened to stop the looting;
- no, police haven’t responded to emergency 911 calls for people injured by rubber bullets or children hit by cars;
- no, michael brown’s shooter still has not faced any consequences for murdering an unarmed teenager 9 days ago
'Just because I got an Emmy nomination doesn't mean the lives of trans people aren't in peril every day.'
I must remind you that starving a child is violence. Suppressing a culture is violence. Neglecting school children is violence. Punishing a mother and her family is violence. Discrimination against a working man is violence. Ghetto housing is violence. Ignoring medical need is violence. Contempt for poverty is violence.
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Stop calling me “someone’s daughter”.
That should be enough reason not to hurt me.
President Obama came down hard on gun-control laws during today’s Tumblr Q&A.
For your first point you mentioned that no one is saying that men are all rapists just because they are men yet there are people who say exactly that. And not just people but society as well I.E a man is far more likely to be convicted of domestic abuse, and male victims of domestic abuse have far less help available to them as women "can not hurt a man" not to mention how under reported it is because Men are always the aggressor never the victim.
The problems we have with society not believing men can be raped or that they can’t be the victim of domestic abuse are caused by the exact same misogyny that causes frighteningly frequent sexual violence against women. The root of these problems is the same.
Some people look at those statistics about female-on-male domestic abuse going unreported and say “men are disenfranchised, they need more rights.” But considering how much power men have in this society, that’s borderline delusional. My response is: “Society is unequal, we need more equality.”
As for people who say that all men are rapists, I mean, there are lots of people who say lots of weird things. Dismissing a perspective because some people who hold it are wrong about something is a pretty easy way to dismiss every perspective ever.
EDIT - Also it occurs to me that maybe you’re misinterpreting something. Is it possible that the people you’ve heard say “all men are rapists” are in fact saying “I am afraid for my safety and so I have to consider that all men are potential rapists.” That’s a very different thing, and should be considered by you (who has never seen the world from that person’s perspective) as valid and important.
Why is it /My/ Problem
So I’ve heard a few guys who I’m trying not to judge too harshly say “I love women, I treat them with respect. Why do I have to bear the sins of my brethren.” This post is directed toward them:
- You are not being asked to bear the sins of anyone. No one is saying you are a rapist. People are saying that there /are/ rapists, and there are reasons for that and we should work to decrease the amount of sexual assaults. Is that your responsibility? I mean, I dunno, I guess if you’d rather spend your time doing something else that’s fine. But, like, don’t be surprised if someone asks you to do things or act in a way that will decrease sexual violence because that’s something you also want.
- Whether or not I have entirely embodied equality and mutual respect with women in my life, society as a whole has not. There are people who believe that a woman’s place is in the kitchen. There are people who believe that women exist to be pretty. There are people who believe that they deserve sex in return for being nice. Men do hold the vast majority of positions of power in America. All women deal with misogyny. All women deal with sexual assault. This is a societal problem that needs a societal solution.
Not all men are rapists, but all men /are/ privileged. The fact that women must be constantly wary of sexual violence while men don’t should be enough for us all to accept that.
So, do those of us with this privilege choose to use that power we have to maintain our power? Or do we use it to decrease the amount of violence and increase the amount of equality? That’s really the question.
And for some people who are still disenfranchised or insecure despite this one source of privilege (quite possibly because they have other factors that society is prejudiced against that made life difficult for them), yeah, that can be a hard thing to do. But it is not the /wrong/ thing to do…you can’t say that.
#YesAllWomen is trending on Twitter right now.
This is very important.
Right now, men just need to shut up, read these and learn. We HAVE to do better.
To You Internet Misogynists
First of all, fuck you. It’s always been like, you know, an irritating thing that you’d attempted to co-opt the language of feminism and other civil rights struggles to cloak your sexist ideas in bullshit like “Men’s Rights” and calling this sexist garbage “activism.” And for a long time, I think a lot of people like me were down with ignoring this shit because it was juvenile and stupid, but also because it seemed like this tactic was clearly the same as racists whining about why there isn’t White History Month, or homophobes trying to have a Straight Pride Parade, something that anyone with half a brain could see is transparently a way to prop up the bigotry of people who already control the balance of power in this world.
But this Elliot Rodger mess brings up a way that this type of shit can affect people. Because, when you co-opt the rhetoric of revolution and struggle, it’s more than just “trolling” or some bullshit to make, you know, actual decent people angry. It’s language that can make a disturbed person think that defending bigotry is a legitimate struggle, that, in Rodger’s case, that owning and subjugating women is a cause worth killing and dying for. Because that’s what those words mean, you fucking garbage assholes, those words are for people who struggle from real oppression, to inspire people to sacrifice and never give up. The fact that straight white men have taken these words to rally around calcifying the bigotry that’s slipping from their fingers is truly disgusting, and now it’s more clear that it has fucking consequences.
Fuck you, you pieces of shit, fuck you.