“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”
Sara: English major/Gender and Sexuality Studies minor, working at a nonprofit that gets young women ready for and interested in running for office/maybe soon applying to grad school, writer, clarinetist.
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#NotJustHello is a recent Twitter dialogue (started by @Karnythia) on how street harassment is not just about men not being able to say “hello” to women (though all who experience street harassment aren’t necessarily “women” or ID as such). Above are some of my tweets during that conversation. The idea that it is women “preventing” hello is not just a violently gross lie, but a mass oversimplification of the verbal/physical abuse and even sexual assault/murder that comes about via street harassment.
Anyone who thinks all I describe above is okay clearly supports violence. None of these actions (and I’ve experienced much worse; some I don’t even discuss online) above are about saying “hello.” It’s one of the reasons why I included "so I can’t say hello?" in my Street Harassment and Street Harassment + Misogynoir BINGO card, that I included again in this post.
The first time I posted the BINGO card is in my recent post about my experiences, my writing on street harassment as experienced as a Black woman and the anti-street harassment chat #YouOkSis (by @Russian_Starr and @FeministaJones) scheduled for Thursday, July 10th at 12pm. In this aforementioned post (and within my years of writing on the topic) I address why some people want Black women silenced on this topic (and in general) and how the racist and anti-intersectional mainstream media framing and centering of White women as the only victims of street harassment with Black men as only perpetrators removes other men’s culpability and again, silences Black women. This is a time and space for Black women to speak our truths.
Related Post: Street Harassment Is Violence (Essay Compilation)
apparently e.l. james called former child star mara wilson (matilda) a “sad fuck” for critiquing the 50shades books a while ago and now there’s a feud. i love it.
this gives me hope.
mara wilson is also the faceless old woman who lives in your home, so you know she’s got your best interests at heart
they only let us narrate yogurt commercials.
Go watch In a World, it’s all about this!
This post is eveeeeeeeerything
#YesAllWomen is trending on Twitter right now.
This is very important.
Right now, men just need to shut up, read these and learn. We HAVE to do better.
Or ya know, that the immigrant is willing to work for less money. Which is a horrible thing to do to someone, to pay them less than the already shitty minimum wage we have in this country, and it is still a failing, but to say that these blue collar working class people weren’t very good at these jobs and that’s why they are now jobless is disgusting and shows a true misunderstanding of the situation we’re in and why we can’t get ourselves out of it and back to being a prosperous nation.
It also shows that this girl doesn’t understand the exploitation of immigrant workers at all.
But yeah ok, let’s reblog 2 tweets and act like someone just got SEW BURNED.
Another problem: implying that lack of knowledge of a foreign language (English) indicates a lesser ability and so that’s why it’s “funny” that such a person could “steal” a job.
That is, saying “lol, even people who don’t know English can do your job” is not very hidden shorthand for “lol you’re even stupider than people whose stupidity I measure by their lack of English fluency”.
FIVE YEARS HE WAITED FIVE YEARS
I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:
1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear. ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me? So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”
2) Women not having cheat codes. ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me. I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me. Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”
3) Women not being a hive mind. ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles. Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all. Make up your mind, women!”
4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”
eheheh i get it
Recap, in summary of my experience at DC Con:
Text only tweets when my phone was dying. 2 of 2. [Part 1]
Text only tweets when my phone was dying. 1 of 2. [Part 2]
Recap: Love that Osric Chau is such a huge fan of Mark Sheppard.