The fact that I end every sentence with ‘idk’ is a really good reflection of my self esteem
"A very specific way some young women express a sense of incompetence is by claiming ignorance, not about something specific, but in general, by uttering the words, “I don’t know.” The phrase “I don’t know” may be used as a means of filling space, changing the subject, weakening an otherwise clear statement, or contradicting a specific claim of knowledge. Some discourse theorists have claimed that “I don’t know”, used in these ways, serves a politeness or social leveling function. By liberally peppering speech with these non-conventional uses of the phrase, a speaker mitigates against the possibility that she might seem arrogant, and she can hedge statements of fact so as not to appear positional or argumentative." —The Fabric of Internalized Sexism, Journal of Integrated Social Sciences (2009)
Once I was paying attention to this in college seminars, it started to drive me ABSOLUTELY INSANE because SO MANY PEOPLE DO IT. See also: “I feel like…” Nothing made me more crazy than girls with totally reasonable points to make hedging everything they said in “feeling” something, because then it’s emotional and a) somehow irrational, and therefore b) more easily defensible.
So I say to you, females of the world, particularly those of you who are in a university somewhere: JUST SAY WHAT YOU THINK. Your opinion is probably valid and even if you are wrong about something, it is probably fine. Because in all likelihood you don’t “feel like” something, you fucking THINK IT IS TRUE. And you all know lots of shit. FUCKING OWN IT.
So Patsy Rodenburg (a renowned voice coach from the UK) talks about how women in western cultures tend to take a breath and hold it before speaking. This is not a thing men do. Rodenburg’s theory is that women are culturally conditioned to wait their turn before speaking. The habit, however, is a bad one when it comes to vocal health; it puts unnecessary strain on the vocal apparatus. When I work with teenage girls as a vocal coach I tell them this fact and then insist that they notice when they do this thing and then STOP DOING IT. We all need to speak our minds more.
I say “I feel like” ALL THE TIME. My mom gets on me for it.
I need to stop that.
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i really love hearing people talk about what they’re passionate about
things like art or science or everything and anything inbetween
hearing someone rant with love and passion is so fantastic
to see their eyes widen and watch their hands move, hear their speech quicken and know their heart is beating faster because every bit of their body just cares so much.
Yes, yes, YES.
It’s one of my favorite things to see/listen to my friends do.
In which I got terrible sleep and now feel like shit:
As much as I would love to be a person that goes to parties and has a couple of drinks and has a nice time, that doesn’t work for me. I do that very unsuccessfully. I’d just rather sit at home and read, or talk to somebody that makes me laugh. There’s no shame in enjoying the quiet life. And that’s been the realisation of the past few years for me.
Daniel Radcliffe speaking to GQ