“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”
Sara: English major/Gender and Sexuality Studies minor, working at a nonprofit that gets young women ready for and interested in running for office/maybe soon applying to grad school, writer, clarinetist.
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the stereotype that women talk more than men is infinitely amusing to me because men are literally incapable of shutting the fuck up
i hope this post gets popular enough that i hurt a man’s feelings
It’s not a stereotype it’s a proven fact you femanazi piece of shit.
lmao there it is
You wanna talk proven facts? This shit’s been done, son: researcher Dale Spencer in Australia used audio and video tape to independently evaluate who talked the most in mixed-gender university classroom discussions. Regardless of the gender ratio of the students, whether the instructor was deliberately trying to encourage female participation or not, men always talked more—whether the metric was minutes of talking or number of words spoken.
Moreover, men literally have no clue how much they talk. When Spencer asked students to evaluate their perception of who talked more in a given discussion, women were pretty accurate; but men perceived the discussion as being “equal” when women talked only 15% of the time, and the discussion as being dominated by women if they talked only 30% of the time.
Spencer’s conclusion, if I may parahprase: you only think we talk too much because you’d rather we were silent.
Don’t fuck with me, asshole, I’m a scientist.
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The fact that I end every sentence with ‘idk’ is a really good reflection of my self esteem
"A very specific way some young women express a sense of incompetence is by claiming ignorance, not about something specific, but in general, by uttering the words, “I don’t know.” The phrase “I don’t know” may be used as a means of filling space, changing the subject, weakening an otherwise clear statement, or contradicting a specific claim of knowledge. Some discourse theorists have claimed that “I don’t know”, used in these ways, serves a politeness or social leveling function. By liberally peppering speech with these non-conventional uses of the phrase, a speaker mitigates against the possibility that she might seem arrogant, and she can hedge statements of fact so as not to appear positional or argumentative." —The Fabric of Internalized Sexism, Journal of Integrated Social Sciences (2009)
Once I was paying attention to this in college seminars, it started to drive me ABSOLUTELY INSANE because SO MANY PEOPLE DO IT. See also: “I feel like…” Nothing made me more crazy than girls with totally reasonable points to make hedging everything they said in “feeling” something, because then it’s emotional and a) somehow irrational, and therefore b) more easily defensible.
So I say to you, females of the world, particularly those of you who are in a university somewhere: JUST SAY WHAT YOU THINK. Your opinion is probably valid and even if you are wrong about something, it is probably fine. Because in all likelihood you don’t “feel like” something, you fucking THINK IT IS TRUE. And you all know lots of shit. FUCKING OWN IT.
So Patsy Rodenburg (a renowned voice coach from the UK) talks about how women in western cultures tend to take a breath and hold it before speaking. This is not a thing men do. Rodenburg’s theory is that women are culturally conditioned to wait their turn before speaking. The habit, however, is a bad one when it comes to vocal health; it puts unnecessary strain on the vocal apparatus. When I work with teenage girls as a vocal coach I tell them this fact and then insist that they notice when they do this thing and then STOP DOING IT. We all need to speak our minds more.
I say “I feel like” ALL THE TIME. My mom gets on me for it.
I need to stop that.
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i really love hearing people talk about what they’re passionate about
things like art or science or everything and anything inbetween
hearing someone rant with love and passion is so fantastic
to see their eyes widen and watch their hands move, hear their speech quicken and know their heart is beating faster because every bit of their body just cares so much.
Yes, yes, YES.
It’s one of my favorite things to see/listen to my friends do.
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In which I got terrible sleep and now feel like shit: