“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”
Sara: College class of 2012 (English major, Gender and Sexuality Studies minor), looking for work/applying to grad school, writer, clarinetist.
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UPDATE: This petition must get 100,000 signatures by December 24th of this year! Boost this as much as you possibly can and make sure to sign!
In 31 states, rapists are allowed to sue victims they’ve impregnated for custody rights.
There’s a case in Boston, MA right now in which a rapist is taking advantage of this. He pleaded guilty of rape in 2011 and was sentenced to 16 years probation; however, this sentence includes 16 years of family court as well, which the victim must also attend. He’s using this to sue for joint custody of her child and will only withdraw his law suit if he is free from paying any form of child support. This entire sentence seems like much more of a punishment for the victim than it is for the rapist, and for the state to allow such a thing, the victim is suing.
As stated in the court complaint, “Even if the family court ruled in the [victim]’s favor on issues currently in dispute, such as whether the criminal defendant should be granted visitation rights to [her] child, [she] will suffer harm from the constant threat of new issues arising in family court until her child reaches adulthood, including, for example, efforts by the criminal defendant to seek to modify child support orders and enforce his parental rights at the trial court level and on appeal.”
If this woman is forced to attend 16 years of family court with her rapist, she is not only forced to confront a traumatic event that she should never have to deal with again, but she is subjected to the possibility of losing pieces of her child to him over and over again for all of those years. In addition to this constant state of fear and anguish she would face, just by being sent to something considered ‘family’ court—for her and her rapist—she’s being disrespected and her rape undermined by even the suggestion that this is a family situation. By doing this, the law is making felony into family.
In 31 states, rapists are actually given rights instead of having much of anything taken away. In being given these rights, they are being given the chance to further torment the woman and possibly abuse the child. It is not okay to reward rapists and further punish victims, and the ignorance of rape and how our justice system is handling it needs to turn around.
Please sign this petition to ban rapists from being able to sue for custody rights. This issue is so little known, yet so important, and I don’t know any better way of trying to make this change.
HOW ARE THERE LESS THAN A HUNDRED SIGNATURES!?!!
Come on, people!
Let’s take a moment to talk about this. I mean, because first off, “Tell cars not to hit kids.” Well, yeah, we do that all the fucking time, idiot. Ever seen signs like these?
We have classes and signs and laws about it, and people are constantly reminded. So your argument only works if we put up signs everywhere reminding assholes not to rape. But you’d rather talk about how rape victims have it coming to them.
But the dumbest part of this crap? Roads exist for cars to drive on. Children need to be careful to cross the street because they’re entering into an environment that exists specifically for something that is dangerous to them. The only way this shit is a valid comparison is if you think that bars, parties, and the world in general exists specifically for men to have sex with women. And I gotta break it to the guys who support this stupidity- your dicks are not that important. So knock off this bullshit and stop excusing rapists.
If you’re not making sexists uncomfortable you’re making me uncomfortable… You haven’t transcended society. You don’t recognise your privilege and then it goes away. If you think that you didn’t understand privilege.
On the left we have the lyrics from Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines. On the right we rape survivors participating in Project Unbreakable, showing the various things that were said to them by their rapist.
for people who are like “but it’s just a song…”
Okay, I lied, THIS is the last thing I’ll post about Blurred Lines because I find the side by side comparison of lyrics/scenes with the signs quoting rapists to be striking.
I only went there for one semester, but since they keep sending me alumni materials, I’m super proud:
Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines song has been banned from being played in any of the student union buildings at the University of Edinburgh.
The American’s worldwide hit has been criticised with some people saying it refers to non-consensual sex in some of the song’s lyrics.
These include the main chorus lines: “I hate these blurred lines, I know you want it” and “must wanna get nasty”.
The ban falls in line with an Edinburgh University Students’ Association (EUSA) policy, entitled End Rape Culture and Lad Banter on Campus, to tackle “myths and stereotypes around sexual violence”.
- Emma Brant, BBC News [Emphasis added.]
Most men don’t rape, but most men do perpetuate, defend, and participate in these machinations of male supremacy, without which rape would be rare, if it existed at all.
Most men don’t rape, yet they see to it that the multi-billion dollar a year pornography industry flourishes; that the sexual objectification of women remains ubiquitous; that rape is trivialized, romanticized, promoted through movies, TV, music, hate-radio, news media, academia, and publishing houses. They see to it that men who rape have little to fear, while women who harm or kill rapists are sent to prison or insane asylums.
Most men don’t rape, yet historically they have denied women basic civil rights, excluded them from power, erased them through language, passed laws requiring them to wear movement-restrictive clothing, institutionalized female servitude, theorized female inferiority — all of which amounts to men’s metaphorical rape of women, and all of which creates the circumstances that make physical rape possible.
Most men don’t physically rape. If they did, the social machinery behind rape might collapse. If most men raped, women might no longer trust men. Women might find little reason to collaborate with men’s sexism. They might identify men as their enemy. They might fight back against men, effectively and with purpose.
Most men do not want to rape. But most men want to keep the rape-system in place, regulated and functional. Natural selection, which is based on competition among males, does not cause men to cooperate with one another to oppress women as a class. Natural selection does not cause men to regulate violence against women and institutionalize male supremacy. Rather, men built and participate in the rape-system because of what it gives them: class power over women, including sexual access to women, constant assurance that they are superior to women, and a violence-based social context that allows for the sexual domination and possession of women they love." — Adriene Sere, Men and the History of Rape
Do you think Robin Thicke would mind if I punched him in the face, he didn’t say yes but i know he wants it
I didn’t watch last night, but I’ve heard enough about Miley Cyrus and Robin Thicke (mostly Miley Cyrus) this morning to make it feel like I not only watched it, but watched it on repeat with my eyeballs held open for 72 straight hours.
My thoughts on the griping:
- You’re mad because Miley Cyrus is co-opting black culture to prove her “bad girl” cred, while maintaining white respectability? Rant away. I’m there with you.
- You’re mad because Robin Thicke’s song about “blurred lines” is some creepy, rape-tacular bullshit? Go for it. I’m 100% on board.
- The singing was terrible? Well, yeah. You were expecting something else?
- Miley Cyrus is a nasty whore—think about the children!—but you don’t have a word to say about Robin Thicke? You’re apparently okay with a song about dudes raping girls who’ve said they’re not interested, because “mixed signals,” but Miley Cyrus acting like she enjoys sex is a problem for you? No. Pack up your rape-is-fine-but-a-girl-who-seems-like-she-actually-wants-to-have-sex-is-gross bullshit and get the fuck out of my house.
I personally think both of them should have been yanked off the stage with a giant flaming cane, but not for the reasons 90% of the people I’ve encountered today do.
So, this happened…
No. No. No. No. No.
Knowledge is power, so here is a PDF for more research on the effects of rape jokes and how they affect victim blaming and taking abuse seriously