Here’s some fantastic news for your Friday: On Thursday, the California Senate unanimously approved a new bill that defines sexual consent as a firm “yes” rather than a lack of “no.”
This is a big win for anti-rape activists, many of whom have been touting the necessity of an “affirmative consent” standard for years. California Gov. Jerry Brown (D) has the next month to sign the bill into law. If he does, schools across the state would be required to define consent before engaging in sexual activity as an “affirmative, conscious, and voluntary agreement” or risk losing state financial aid funding.
on today’s episode of me having feelings, a series of tweets about “anti-rape nail polish.”
Stop calling me “someone’s daughter”.
That should be enough reason not to hurt me.
This post is eveeeeeeeerything
the worst thing about tumblr is that you read all those pro feminist/anti rape/anti misogyny posts all the time everyday and then you actually go outside and talk to a random guy and it feels like being punched in the face with a chair
For your first point you mentioned that no one is saying that men are all rapists just because they are men yet there are people who say exactly that. And not just people but society as well I.E a man is far more likely to be convicted of domestic abuse, and male victims of domestic abuse have far less help available to them as women "can not hurt a man" not to mention how under reported it is because Men are always the aggressor never the victim.
The problems we have with society not believing men can be raped or that they can’t be the victim of domestic abuse are caused by the exact same misogyny that causes frighteningly frequent sexual violence against women. The root of these problems is the same.
Some people look at those statistics about female-on-male domestic abuse going unreported and say “men are disenfranchised, they need more rights.” But considering how much power men have in this society, that’s borderline delusional. My response is: “Society is unequal, we need more equality.”
As for people who say that all men are rapists, I mean, there are lots of people who say lots of weird things. Dismissing a perspective because some people who hold it are wrong about something is a pretty easy way to dismiss every perspective ever.
EDIT - Also it occurs to me that maybe you’re misinterpreting something. Is it possible that the people you’ve heard say “all men are rapists” are in fact saying “I am afraid for my safety and so I have to consider that all men are potential rapists.” That’s a very different thing, and should be considered by you (who has never seen the world from that person’s perspective) as valid and important.
‘”Why do men feel threatened by women?” I asked a male friend of mine. So this male friend of mine, who does by the way exist, conveniently entered into the following dialogue. “I mean,” I said, “men are bigger, most of the time, they can run faster, strangle better, and they have on the average a lot more money and power.” “They’re afraid women will laugh at them,” he said. “Undercut their world view.” Then I asked some women students in a quickie poetry seminar I was giving, “Why do women feel threatened by men?” “They’re afraid of being killed,” they said.’
Margaret Atwood, Writing the Male Character (1982)
That is all I have to say about that. Fucking Margaret Atwood. We are so lucky to have her.
#YesAllWomen is trending on Twitter right now.
This is very important.
Right now, men just need to shut up, read these and learn. We HAVE to do better.
This is gender terrorism.
The fact that this kid can do something like this, the fact that women aged 15-44 are more at risk from rape and domestic violence than from cancer, car accidents, war and malaria, according to World Bank data?
Up to 70 percent of women experience violence in their lifetime, according to studies conducted by the UN?
2,753 people were killed on 9/11 but every year 1.9 million women are physically assaulted in some way.
That’s fucking terrorism.
Rape is the only crime on the books for which arguing that the temptation to commit it was too clear and obvious to resist is treated as a defence. For every other crime, we call that a confession.
I’ve gotten more angry asks about this post than I have actual reblogs.