Climactic Splashes

“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”

Sara: feminism and more.

  #fuck octobers though    #i mean i also agree with this quote don't bet me wrong    #but two octobers in a row have been a little bit awful    #reblogged    #photo    #photoset    #gif    #gifs    #Anne of Green Gables    #October    #life    #quote    #fall    #autumn  
What is bravery
if not the marching forward,
though all may be lost?
  #reblogged    #quote    #text    #Poetry    #Poem    #Haiku    #daily haiku on love by tyler knott gregson    #life    #bravery    #loss  
Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that’s ok with them.
Alain de Botton  (via thatkindofwoman)
  #yes    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #life  
…it matters not just because women win. It matters because it means we have a seat at the table. And everybody in this room knows the basic rule, if you don’t have a seat at the table, you are probably on the menu.
Senator Elizabeth Warren, speaking on the historic influx of women in politics at an event in New York City on Monday.  (via msnbc)
  #aw yeah    #women in politics    #guys this is my career    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #elizabeth warren    #politics    #representation    #parity    #political parity  
In later years, holding forth to an interviewer or to an audience of aging fans at a comic book convention, Sam Clay liked to declare, apropos of his and Joe Kavalier’s greatest creation, that back when he was a boy, sealed and hog-tied inside the airtight vessel known as Brooklyn, New York, he had been haunted by dreams of Harry Houdini.
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, by Michael Chabon
  #reblogged    #quote    #text    #lit    #literature    #the amazing adventures of kavalier and clay    #michael chabon    #kavalier and clay  
In general, I think we need to move away from the premise that being a good person is a fixed immutable characteristic and shift towards seeing being good as a practice. And it is a practice that we carry out by engaging with our imperfections. We need to shift towards thinking that being a good person is like being a clean person. Being a clean person is something you maintain and work on every day.We don’t assume ‘I am a clean person therefore I don’t need to brush my teeth.’ When someone suggests to us that we have something stuck in our teeth we don’t say to them ‘What do you mean I have something stuck in my teeth—but I’m a clean person?!’

Jay Smooth in his TED speech “how I learned to stop worrying and love discussing race” (via tropicanastasia)

Jay Smooth almost always a reblog

(via unrational)

  #reblogged    #quote    #text    #advice    #jay smooth    #ted    #ted talk    #life  
… because of course we’re all prejudiced … but racism is about the power of a group and in America it’s white folks who have that power. How? Well, white folks don’t get treated like shit in upper-class African-American communities and white folks don’t get denied bank loans or mortgages precisely because they are white and black juries don’t give white criminals worse sentences than black criminals for the same crime and black police officers don’t stop white folk for driving while white and black companies don’t choose not to hire somebody because their name sounds white and black teachers don’t tell white kids they’re not smart enough to be doctors and black politicians don’t try some tricks to reduce the voting power of white folks through gerrymandering and advertising agencies don’t say they can’t use white models to advertise glamorous products because they are not considered ‘aspirational’ by the ‘mainstream.’
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Americanah, explaining racism and white privilege so well that even white people (myself included) can understand it (via akmarik)
  #zing    #accurate    #what a badass    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #racism    #white privilege    #americanah    #chimamanda ngozi adichie    #lit    #literature  
anyway, whatever i guess.
me, probably, about some complex personal emotional problem  (via geeses)
  #accurate    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #emotions    #life  

Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions. Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time.

In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows:

“The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.”

In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts.

  #AGREED    #ALWAYS REBLOG    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #FEMINISM    #SPEECH    #FREE SPEECH    #IMPLICT BIAS    #GENDER BIAS    #sexism    #misogyny    #representation    #language    #public life    #education  
Millennials may think they’re staying out of financial trouble by forgoing credit cards, but they’re doing a disservice to themselves and their credit scores. The responsible use of credit cards is one of the easiest ways to build a strong credit score, which is essential for qualifying for insurance policies, auto and mortgage loans, and sometimes even a job.

Bankrate.com credit card analyst Jeanine Skowronski, on Millennials shying away from credit cards (via chicagotribune)

Maybe millennials don’t use credit cards because they don’t want to be in massive debt, lols.

(via elizabitchtaylor)

the whole point of her goddamn quote is RESPONSIBLE USE. meaning, you get a credit card, you occasionally put groceries or something on it, you pay the minimum, your credit score stays nice. not to fucking buy a yacht or go on a goddamned shopping spree. maybe millennials aren’t using credit cards because they’re too damn irresponsible to fucking LEARN HOW TO USE THEM. or, I don’t know, comprehend when someone is trying to teach you something and instead responding with a flippant lolz. good god Tumblr, you can be so frustrating. 

No, NOT THE MINIMUM, pay it off IN FULL every single month.

Which means don’t use it for anything you couldn’t alternatively just pay cash for.

Literally just use it as an extra middle step that 1) builds credit because of course you are able to show that you pay things back completely and promptly because you’ve made sure that you’re not spending beyond your cash means, and 2) gives you a little bit more protection in terms of identity theft stuff, especially online, because credit cards usually let you contest stuff more easily.

  #like    #only use it for stuff you would be able to afford EVEN IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE A CREDIT CARD    #so that you are definitely able to pay it off in full every single damn month    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #financial advice    #credit cards    #finances    #millennials    #advice    #life    #budgeting    #credit  

This Is What an Abortion Looks Like

"In her memoir, ‘Forgetting to Be Afraid,’ which came out this week, Ms. Davis writes about the two wanted pregnancies she terminated. The first abortion ended a life-threatening ectopic pregnancy….The second pregnancy ended in the second trimester because the fetus had an acute brain abnormality.

Abortions like these represent the basic currency of the debate. These are the stories used to teach us the value of abortion, and the standard against which all other abortion stories must be gauged. By repeating only the gut-wrenching, heartbreaking, terrifying abortion stories, we protect a lie: that abortion isn’t normal. We have learned to think of abortion with shame and fear. We have accepted the damaging idea that a person who wants an abortion must grovel before the consciences of others.

I admire Ms. Davis for having the courage to say the word “abortion” over and over for 11 hours, as she did last year, while filibustering a Texas law that would have restricted access to the procedure. And I deeply respect her for telling her own stories now.

But those stories are not groundbreaking. They are politically safe, because no rational person could be anything but sympathetic and thankful that her experiences are extremely rare.

Abortion itself, however, is not rare.

- Merritt Tierce for the New York Times

Definitely read the whole thing, it so succinctly and with a subtle gentleness that hides an underlying firmness makes the case for backing off from using only particular stories of abortion to make the case for reproductive rights. It’s an excellent description in much nicer language of the oldie but goodie “abortion on demand and without apology”.

  #not reblogged    #text    #quote    #link    #merritt tierce    #abortion    #abortion rights    #abortion access    #reproductive justice    #reproductive rights    #reproductive health    #sexism    #misogyny    #body policing    #wendy davis    #the new york times    #who are we to judge    #so piss off    #gif  
I think if we cast a white man to play Shadow we would be the biggest assholes on television.

 Bryan Fuller - [link] (via jmcniel)

This is regarding the American Gods TV adaptation. So, that’s somewhat encouraging.

(via whatdoyoumeanitsnotawesome)

  #ZING    #accurate    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #representation    #racism    #whitewashing    #neil gaiman    #bryan fuller    #american gods    #television  

In a study of children aged 2-5, parents interrupted their daughters more than their sons, and fathers were more likely to talk simultaneously with their children than mothers were. Jennifer Coates says: “It seems that fathers try to control conversation more than mothers… and both parents try to control conversation more with daughters than with sons. The implicit message to girls is that they are more interruptible and that their right to speak is less than that of boys.”

Girls and boys’ differing understanding of when to talk, when to be quiet, what is polite and so on, has a visible impact on the dynamics of the classroom. Just as men dominate the floor in business meetings, academic conferences and so on, so little boys dominate in the classroom - and little girls let them.

X  (via albinwonderland)

Working with children for over a decade, this is something I’ve noticed, actually. And for the majority, the little girls in my class and my co-worker’s classes all sit quietly and listen MUCH better than the boys do. Most boys don’t care to be quiet and sit still. And I don’t think this is an attribute of boys being “rowdier” or more “hyper” - believe me, the girls are JUST as off the wall as the boys if you aren’t telling them not to. It must be a learned behavior, and it must be enforced more with the girls so they know they can’t get away with it. You have no idea how many times in my career I’ve heard “boys will be boys,” and smiling parents as they tell me with a laugh, sorry, their son is “wild” and a “handful” as they introduce him to the class.

(via voicelikehelvetica)

And that’s how you do sexism.  That’s how it’s so effectively trained into every single citizen and indoctrinated as normal and right.

(via waltzy)

  #pretty sure i've reblovved this before    #but i can't be said enough    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #sexism    #misogyny    #parenting    #education  



Terry Crews gets it. Amen!


  #fucking THIS    #yes yes yes    #accurate    #reblogged    #photo    #photoset    #twitter    #quote    #tweets    #terry crews    #violence against women    #sexism    #misogyny    #domestic violence    #football    #nfl  
You guys know about vampires? … You know, vampires have no reflections in a mirror? There’s this idea that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. And what I’ve always thought isn’t that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. It’s that if you want to make a human being into a monster, deny them, at the cultural level, any reflection of themselves. And growing up, I felt like a monster in some ways. I didn’t see myself reflected at all.

Junot Díaz on race and representation in media (via medievalpoc)

This quote also applies to STEM fields and representation.

(via old-woman-josie)
  #mind blown    #fantasticly put    #reblogged    #quote    #text    #representation    #stem    #media    #entertainment    #junot díaz