“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”
Sara: College class of 2012 (English major, Gender and Sexuality Studies minor), looking for work/applying to grad school, writer, clarinetist.
I post and reblog: things I think are pretty, things that intrigue me, things I'm a fan of, and things I care about.
Common themes include: books, writing, movies, more books, cozy beds, breakfasts, Doctor Who, Sherlock, feminist issues, and occasional pieces of my life.
Wallpaper adapted from here.
This is what gay rights look like in Russia. Peaceful protestors are overrun by anti-gay violence and police prosecution.
This is actually really interesting.
I love that he pointed out that it’s different when men and women are objectified on film, not only because of the way our society views men and women, but also in the specific way those shots are framed.
When consuming media it’s so important to remember that filmmakers and ad companies have so many tools at their disposal that the average viewer is not even aware of. The way a scene is set, the way the camera moves, which parts of a person are included in the fame, the number of seconds the camera views each particular part of a person. All of these things very subtly evoke responses from us. We don’t notice them because we aren’t supposed to notice them—if they are doing their job right, everything feels seamless and correct to the viewer. And even if we do notice, we may not be able to articulate it because most of us haven’t studied filmmaking techniques.
If you think you are 100% impenetrable to the effects of the content you view, you are deluding yourself.
excellent explanation of the Male Gaze, a must watch
Done by a guy. Still, done well.
Hello Queen of Genovia
To be white, or straight, or male, or middle class is to be simultaneously ubiquitious and invisible. You’re everywhere you look, you’re the standard against which everyone else is measured. You’re like water, like air. People will tell you they went to see a “woman doctor” or they will say they went to see “the doctor.” People will tell you they have a “gay colleague” or they’ll tell you about a colleague. A white person will be happy to tell you about a “Black friend,” but when that same person simply mentions a “friend,” everyone will assume the person is white. Any college course that doesn’t have the word “woman” or “gay” or “minority” in its title is a course about men, heterosexuals, and white people. But we call those courses “literature,” “history” or “political science.”
This invisibility is political." — Michael S. Kimmel, in the introduction to the book, “Privilege: A Reader” (via thinkspeakstress)
OH NO SHE DIDN’T!
Somebody hold. my. earrings.
I know most tumblypoos aren’t old enough to remember with me, but when I was in high school, this was unimaginable. I mean that literally: I could not imagine it.
The President of the United States did not say the word AIDS in public until 1987, by which time more than 20,000 Americans had died. The chronic under-funding of AIDS research was driven primarily by systemic homophobia. The President himself privately remarked, “Maybe the Lord brought down this plague [because] illicit sex is against the ten commandments.”
References to homosexuality as a mental illness were not completely removed from the American Psychiatric Society’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Gay sex was a crime in most American states until 1989 (and in many until 2003).
Seventeen years ago, the year I graduated from high school, a classmate posted an anonymous open letter in my school’s paper saying that s/he was gay and found the homophobic language used by his/her classmates offensive. This is embarrassing to admit, but it had never occurred to me that constant use of the word “gay” in pejorative contexts would be offensive to someone I knew, because it never occurred to me that I knew any gay people.
And then for more than a decade, a long string of state constitutional amendments excluded LGBT people from legal marriage and the rights associated with it. It must have been very hurtful, to have voters in state after state after state decide to exclude you from the full rights and protections of citizenship in this country.
Well, change is coming. In 1986, the President thought AIDS was a scourge given to sinners. In 1995, I learned not to use the word “gay” as a pejorative adjective. And on Tuesday, a majority of voters in four very different states in very different parts of the country said NO to the hate, fear, bigotry, and exclusion that have shaped our policy on marital rights in this country.
I know that it’s still hard, that many LGBT people are threatened and bullied and dehumanized by their peers and denied rights by their governments. We have a long way to go. But the young anonymous gay person who wrote that open letter to my high school in 1995? She just oversaw a campaigns to bring marriage equality in Maine.
And she’s married.
‘cause I won’t.
/or of myself.
If you honestly think libraries shouldn’t have books with LGBTQetc. themes because it might ruffle feathers don’t talk to me don’t even look at me go away.
I just can’t, with slut-shaming, the vilifying of people—many of whom make things work by taking advantage of the kinds of programs I’m pretty sure Romney would gut/eliminate—who do the best they can, with or without help from other family and friends.
And why does he think that married heterosexual couples necessarily do such a great job, anyway? NEWSFLASH: screw-ups and abusers who should never be parents sometimes get married and have kids! SHOCKER.
This is my partner and I. We have been together for four years, travelled halfway across the world to be together two times (first me, then her), spent thousands of dollars, but because of the Australian law we are unable to get legally married (I am a trans man, but legally female). As such, we are only entitled to an unmarried partner visa. If we were able to be legally married, we could apply in Australia for $900, but because of homophobic laws we have to pay either $2000 to apply off-shore or $3000 to apply on-shore.
We currently live in the UK. We moved here to make up the 12 month living together requirement (which can be waived now if you live in one of the states with a relationship register, but wasn’t negotiable a few years ago) and we now have lived together for over two years. Lauren is here on a limited visa which expires in November. I have been working for these two years to save money to apply for this visa, but because of incredibly low wages (most jobs are minimum wage) in the UK coupled with a very high cost of living, the majority of these two years has been spent trying to choose between rent and food.
We now live with abusive people to save on rent (and to be able to afford to eat), but it’s still not enough. I’ve been working hard every day - waking up for work at 5:45am and not getting home until 7pm - but it’s not enough. I’ve tried to get better paying jobs but they’re just not out there. Lauren is unable to work due to severe physical and mental health issues, which remain untreated because the NHS simply does not care.
I want to take her home so she can get the care she needs, so we can leave this abusive environment (if we stay here, we will have no choice but to live here literally forever because we won’t be able to afford rent), and so we can both live a decent quality of life.
We have everything stacked against us, low-paying job, health problems, expensive visa. I am at a loss.
After all this time, we have minimal savings. We cannot even afford the flights to Australia at this point. We allow ourselves to spend £20 on food every week, and Lauren skips meals to help us save.
Please, if you can spare even a few cents, we would be incredibly grateful. If you don’t want to donate, we would very much appreciate a reblog/signal boost.
- Tom M.
So my mother just spent 25 minutes (the clock was behind her) hurling abuse at me and Lauren about my transsexualism, shouting at me for taking testosterone and telling me I was hurting her through being transsexual and then accusing me of being aggressive when I tried, in a calm tone, to explain that I had to take hormones to save my own life. She then shouted at Lauren for defending me and brought her to tears.
We really need to get out of here quick, and of course we appreciate what we have already been given (often by complete strangers!), but I’m reblogging this again in the hopes that someone can help us out more or reblog this post. It would mean so much. We are hopeless right now.
To Everyone Who Is Supporting Obama Because He “Supports” Their Views on Gay Marriage, Abortion, Feminism, Or Other Social Issues,
Are these issues really the biggest thing you should be focusing your vote on as taxes skyrocket, our debt goes through the roof, our economy crumbles, our Medicare system fails, our credit score hurts, and jobs become a dying breed? As Obama promises to make your social dreams about “equality” true, consider this: All the promises he made about “change” and fixing our country four years ago…. has he made good on those promises? Are you wasting your vote on someone who is proven to do anything but change, and leading us into a bigger abyss that is greater than any social issue, an abyss of destruction and ruin for our great nation?
Just something to consider.
A 17 year old female Conservative who supports gay marriage, is not a heavy handed Bible thumper, and sees The Bigger Picture.
- Under Barack Obama, taxes have hit a 30-year low. Mitt Romney’s tax plan, on the other hand, is expected to raise taxes on middle and lower income voters. The only people who will experience tax cuts under Romney are those with high incomes.
- Did you know that 3/4 of Obama’s deficits are due to tax breaks? Fun fact, when people rage about skyrocketing tax rates. Notably, Romney’s tax plan isn’t expected to reduce deficits, either. For realzies.
- The economy is actually improving. It’s not perfect, but it’s also not crumbling. It’s certainly not an abyss of destruction. Good grief.
- Romney’s plan to repeal the $716 billion in savings achieved by cutting reimbursements to hospitals and insurance companies will actually hasten Medicare’s insolvency by 8 years and increase Medicare co-pays and premiums by over $300 a year for the next 10 years. Let’s not even get started on the plan to turn Medicare into a voucher system for private insurance. All the way around, Romney and Ryan’s plan for Medicare is horrific and will drive up costs on seniors present and future.
- The S&P downgrade was the result of political gridlock and the inability of Congress and Obama to produce legislation that shows significant steps toward reducing the public debt burden. Notably, Romney hasn’t really put forward any plans that resolve the latter issue, either, and if the political gridlock resolves, it’s because the GOP is no longer grandstanding and absolutely refusing to work with Democrats at all on anything.
- Instead of blaming Obama for lack of jobs recovery, maybe we should talk about the fact that Senate Republicans have blocked 19 pieces of job legislation in the last 2 years. And looking at Romney and Obama’s plans for jobs, it’s unlikely that Romney’s jobs plan will produce many or any jobs in the short-term. Obama has been talking about hiring back the 300,000 educators who have lost their jobs in the last 3 years thanks to budget cuts and austerity programs. Considering that loss of public sector jobs is a significant contributing factor in the unemployment rate, it’s worth revisiting how austerity programs actually hurt the economy more than they help. And we could learn a lot from Britain’s experience with austerity measures and a double-dip recession.
The fact that Obama supports equal access to marriage and the social and legal benefits it confers on people, respects women’s bodily autonomy and ability to make private medical decisions without the government’s interference, and women’s right to equal pay is really beside the point. Romney won’t balance the budget, won’t save the economy, won’t improve Medicare or reduce costs for its beneficiaries, and won’t create jobs.
A grown ass woman who knows how to fact check
Social issues ARE the big picture when they effect you. It’s easy to brush them off when they don’t, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t really fucking important.
Anyone that says to anyone else don’t worry about not getting your rights right now, wait on that or don’t worry about your rights being eroded, we’ll fix that later is someone I would say is the one who doesn’t have their priorities in order. These ARE serious fucking issues and you can’t keep telling others to wait for a later that’ll never come while you got yours.
reblogged for epic takedown
Perfect commentary is perfect. I mean, even if the op had their facts right with respect to the economy, an improved economy doesn’t do me much good if I’m not considered a full person. Which I wouldn’t be.
That sums it up
This reminds me of a discussion we had in school, and one girl was talking about living in fear of her safety because she is a girl, and this guy chimed in and was all “It’s hard for guys too! I’m so awkward around girls! It’s embarrassing!” Yeah, not the same thing, exactly?
This reminds me of an article about online (heterosexual) dating that I read a while ago. It listed men’s and women’s worst fears about meeting someone from online. The highest ranked fear that men had was that their date would be fat, whereas the highest ranked fear that women had was that their date would turn out to be violent and kill them.
I think that says a lot.
This is a pretty classic privilege dynamic I think, and one that we as a society tend to downplay in order to give the privileged even more volume.
Men are afraid women will laugh at them or won’t have sex with them, women are afraid men will kill them.
Rich people are upset that everyone else is calling them “greedy” instead of “job creators”, everyone else is upset that they can’t afford health care.
White people are afraid of being called racist by people of color, people of color are afraid of being killed by white people (especially white people in positions of authority, like police).
Straight people are afraid of having their “marriages ruined” by other people getting married, queer people are afraid of being beaten to death.
Cis people are afraid of having to share a bathroom with someone different than they are, trans people are afraid of being murdered.
This is really just a perfect X, Y statement to sum up the most basic tenet of privilege: if you are privileged, the majority of the time you don’t fear for your basic survival.