“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”


Sara: English major/Gender and Sexuality Studies minor, working at a nonprofit that gets young women ready for and interested in running for office/maybe soon applying to grad school, writer, clarinetist.

I post and reblog: things I think are pretty, things that intrigue me, things I'm a fan of, and things I care about.

Common themes include: books, writing, movies, more books, cozy beds, breakfasts, Doctor Who, Sherlock, feminist issues, and occasional pieces of my life.




"I can’t really be suggesting that heterosexuality is somehow taught, can I? That it is somehow part of the curriculum?
I would argue that it is very much part of what schools aim to teach. Why else would educational institutions so enthusiastically promote social norms which exclude queers? My own teaching colleagues have criticised my decision to tell my students my partner’s name, Emily, as it’s too much information about my sexuality; straight colleagues wear wedding rings or take the title ‘Mrs.’ Facebook memes celebrate ‘mums and dads’ kissing in front of the kids to show them what loving relationships are like; television programmes depicting same-sex kisses are firmly placed in later timeslots to ‘protect children’. Kissing my partner in the supermarket attracts disgusted glances from people who steer their children quickly away; a family wedding with children present can include more than one gently ribald reference to the wedding night or the honeymoon. In short, heterosexuality is relentlessly advertised by those who practice it; queer sexualities are always taboo in ‘family friendly’ spaces." — Queer mothering in a straight world: AMIRCI Conference Paper | Spilt Milk (via feministlibrarian)

(via valeria2067)



ladysaviours:

joseph fink is not even in the vicinity of fucking around on twitter today

(via markcampbells)



"Black and Third World people are expected to educate white people as to our humanity. Women are expected to educate men. Lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world. The oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions. There is a constant drain of energy which might be better used in redefining ourselves and devising realistic scenarios for altering the present and constructing the future." — Audre Lorde

(via newwavefeminism)



spookymarius:

listening to covers is all well and good until u realise the singer changed the pronouns to pull a musical no homo

(via dearheart17)



"When people of colour are expected to educate white people as to their humanity, when women are expected to educate men, lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world, the oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions." — Audre Lorde (via femme-fatale-feminista)

(Source: , via newwavefeminism)



pipilottirist:

thebicker:

purplefridge:

hi can everyone just take a few seconds of time to report this facebook page? they are screencapping posts in popular tags such as #transgender and posting them to their page - leaving the urls uncensored, mind you - to be attacked and publicly humiliated. multiple friends and i have reported this page to no avail; facebook won’t read our reports.

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we have strength in numbers though. i believe that if hundreds of us are all reporting this, someone’s gonna actually give this page more than a cursory glance.

also i’d strongly advise that if you or anyone you know is posting related content about themselves in these popular tags please stay safe and don’t post there anymore, you could be attacked at any time.

also, i know because i am posting in some of these said buzzword tags, i’ll probably be targeted too, so hi tumblristas! have fun in my inbox!!!

under the cut: just a few receipts of the awful shit they post and some comments by the people these posts are exposed to. heavy trigger warning for transphobia, misogyny, hate speech and much more:

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The person who runs the page A) has a tumblr (publicly linked from the page, I didn’t go hunting it down) and B) thinks that by publicly shaming trans people, he is helping to “expose… those who publicly display their t*****/homo/pervert demons and pathologies for all to see.” (Slur edit mine, obviously.) And somehow it’s related to - wait for it - evil liberal self-entitled “millennial scum” (his words!) who are wreaking the havoc of LGBT acceptance.

Report the page. Or don’t. It makes me chuckle to think that he thinks he’s ~*leading the way to a better Amurrica*~ or whatever by openly mocking LGBT people on Facebook.

This kind of hatred only makes people realize what LGBT people go through and why protecting them is important. Remember when the Mormons tried to legalize their hateful discrimination with Prop 8? Since then, 17 states have legalized same-sex marriage. That shit backfires, always.

I reported and they rejected, surprise surprise.

This is the commentary I wrote on their rejection.image



"What is significant about fan fiction is that it often spins the kind of stories that showrunners wouldn’t think to tell, because fanficcers often come from a different demographic. The discomfort seems to be not that the shows are being reinterpreted by fans, but that they are being reinterpreted by the wrong sorts of fans - women, people of colour, queer kids, horny teenagers, people who are not professional writers, people who actually care about continuity (sorry). The proper way for cultural mythmaking to progress, it is implied, is for privileged men to recreate the works of privileged men from previous generations whilst everyone else listens quietly." — Sherlock and the Adventure of the Overzealous Fanbase by Laurie Penny (via detectivelyd)

(Source: linpatootie, via valeria2067)



Ellen Page Joins HRCF’s Time to Thrive Conference

(Source: starkanthonys, via oldfilmsflicker)



rainbowkitteh:

The mayor of Ottawa

rainbowkitteh:

The mayor of Ottawa

(via esseekay)



kalimehndi:

Being held accountable for defending homophobia and racism is not “being judged”, you sad little brat.

(Source: blackmagicalgirlmisandry, via esseekay)



wolfsisters:

people who change pronouns when they do covers of songs so that they sound straight are weak

(via esseekay)



wagwias:

savanna:

deus-de-mortem:

proudgayconservative:

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… I’m tired of being one of 3 women at my Fire Department!" No.  I’m tired of third wave feminism being so obsessed with equality in every single aspect of life… that they are compromising the safety of others. Did you know that the Australian Fire Department has relaxed its fire service strength and fitness tests just for women because most of them could not even complete the bare minimum required for acceptance? That’s right. Women wanted jobs in the fire department, but because they couldn’t pass the required strength tests they threw a temper tantrum and as a result the government relaxed the entry conditions.   Do you realise what the implications of this are? Imagine a Fire Brigade being forced to hire a number of women because they qualified under the relaxed strength and fitness test (and not hiring them would therefore be discrimination). Now image that same Fire Brigade being called out to a building that is on fire. If there were unconscious occupants still in that building, the only chance of survival for them would be if a fireman pulls them to safety. Now what if one of the female firemen finds two, middle aged men unconscious on the second storey? What if she was one of the many women who could only pass the relaxed strength test because the original was too tough for her? After a long struggle she’ll eventually heave maybe one man out of the building before the fire consumes it… in the same amount of time it would have taken her male colleague to bring out both men.  The Fire Brigade strength and fitness tests weren’t designed to exclude women… They were designed to ensure the safety of those in danger! They were designed to ensure that the rescuers were physically capable of rescuing!! Do you notice how men have little hips and big shoulders? Not only is it cute, it makes them 1000x more efficient at lifting and carrying heavy loads than compared to a woman of the same height and weight. That isn’t a result of patriarchy, that is the result of biology and human anatomy, so go sue Mother Nature if you think it is sexist. Lowering the strength standards has put innocent lives in jeopardy. It has nothing to do with real equality, and everything to do with something as trivial as male:female ratios in certain fields of service. Guess what? It is all because of deluded third wave feminists who consistently fail to look at the bigger picture and are so consumed by their victim complexes and their delusion of being oppressed by the patriarchy that they can’t comprehend the harsh reality of any given situation. - fraudulentfeminist

^Same reason why combat units in our military should not relax their standards just so women have an easier time getting into those units.

What the FUCK
Why do some people have the ridiculous, idiotic, misogynist notion that women are not as strong as men? What the fuck?
That Fire Brigade Bullshit probably happened because the only women to apply weren’t physically fit.
But lemme explain to you a thing. Lemme explain to you ALL a thing.
WOMEN ARE NOT WEAKER THAN MEN.
WOMEN ARE NOT WEAKER THAN MEN.
WOMEN ARE NOT WEAKER THAN MEN
SOCIETY JUST TELLS THEM THAT THEY ARE WHICH CAUSES THEM TO LOSE CONFIDENCE, CAUSING THEM TO BE WEAKER.
Fucking hell.

My dad is a deputy fire chief, and he would have some choice words for the first two responses. He has more than 35 years of experience. He first started in an entry-level position and rose through the ranks, with about eight years outside of a fire department when he was working as a senior investigator and policy analyst at the Office of the Fire Marshall. He also makes a huge effort to hire women, which unfortunately meets with a lot of resistance within the department—by the same people who are also extremely against hiring people of colour or people who aren’t heterosexual. It’s funny how easily bigotry fits into rhetoric of “safety,” isn’t it?
Firstly, women firefighters have to pass the same physical exam as men. A lot men of don’t pass it. A lot of women don’t pass it. But any woman becoming a firefighter has necessarily fulfilled the safety requirements her fitness entails. A lot of women pass the test. Unfortunately, not a lot of women actually apply, because of shitty idiotic attitudes like this. And yes, women often do better on the tests than men. It isn’t the case at all that all men do better than all women who apply. Fuck you for suggesting that.
Secondly, guess what, dipshit. There’s a lot more than goes into putting out fires and rescuing people than brute strength. That’s why there’s a lot of education as well as psychological exams that go into hiring firefighters. And it might stagger you to realize that when you’re talking about entering burning buildings and other hazardous environments, having only a bunch of people with the exact same build and physique is a huge safety risk. You know why the (equally strong, equally smart) women on my dad’s force are such an asset to the team? Because they tend to fit places that men can’t—like through a schoolbus window last month that was inaccessible to almost every firefighter present. My dad says the most effective partners have complementary builds. This often means pairing a woman with a man, as it did in this case. This particular pair often works like this: the man helps move the woman to a place he can’t fit (sometimes literally throwing her through a window). If there hadn’t been a woman, the casualties would have been much higher. And that’s just one example. It’s never a disadvantage to have people of different shapes and sizes, all fully trained and all meeting the same physical requirements of the job, who can contribute differently. 
Thirdly, I’m assuming these idiots regard muscled young white men carrying women and children over each shoulder as the Platonic form of firefighter. But it may astonish you to know that in a fire, smoke kills first. You fucking asphyxiate. That’s one reason firefighters never carry people over their shoulder (the other being that it’s extremely dangerous to deadlift a limp body when you’re wearing 80 pounds of equipment—try doing that and you’re more than likely adding to the amount of victims who need to be rescued). If you hold people up to the ceiling, they fucking asphyxiate. Obviously. So you watch too much TV if you think that’s basically the job. How do firefighters evacuate victims from burning buildings? They drag them along the floor. This is so they don’t suffocate the victim, they lead the way first to safety, and they can fully fucking see and manoeuvre through the hazardous environment. I am not strong. I am not in good shape. I could never be a firefighter without some serious physical training (unlike a ton of other women I know, and like a lot of men). Guess what. Even I can drag my 200-pound, tall, male firefighter father across the floor.
You’re not looking out for people’s safety. You’re upholding misogyny and assuming you know what you’re talking about. We do need feminism in firefighting, because it’s a fucking cesspool of white supremacist patriarchal homophobic cisphobic anti-immigrant privilege good old boys’ club bullshit. It’s based on nothing but prejudice, and emergency services should fairly represent the population they’re paid handsomely to defend. Thankfully, people are slowly steering away from this. There are more and more women becoming firefighters, and last month, a woman joined a neighbouring department to my dad’s as a deputy chief. She passed the tests. She has experience and a sterling record. She also has a Master in Gender Studies, and she’s not very big.

Bolded the part that points out you don’t even want a group of people who all have the same characteristics and strengths and motivations involved in saving lives for both obvious and less obvious reasons (well, if you’re a cisgender, straight, white, able-bodied, and/or otherwise privileged.)


I’d just like to add that there are various studies in other fields that show that diversity leads to the best results (for corporate boards and profitability, for example) because you get lots of different experiences and skills and ideas and are therefore more likely to arrive at the best solutions, rather than similar people just affirming similar ideas because there aren’t as many to choose from.So the above explanation of the effectiveness of complementary teams makes so much sense.

wagwias:

savanna:

deus-de-mortem:

proudgayconservative:

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… I’m tired of being one of 3 women at my Fire Department!"

No.

I’m tired of third wave feminism being so obsessed with equality in every single aspect of life… that they are compromising the safety of others. Did you know that the Australian Fire Department has relaxed its fire service strength and fitness tests just for women because most of them could not even complete the bare minimum required for acceptance? That’s right. Women wanted jobs in the fire department, but because they couldn’t pass the required strength tests they threw a temper tantrum and as a result the government relaxed the entry conditions.  

Do you realise what the implications of this are? Imagine a Fire Brigade being forced to hire a number of women because they qualified under the relaxed strength and fitness test (and not hiring them would therefore be discrimination). Now image that same Fire Brigade being called out to a building that is on fire. If there were unconscious occupants still in that building, the only chance of survival for them would be if a fireman pulls them to safety. Now what if one of the female firemen finds two, middle aged men unconscious on the second storey? What if she was one of the many women who could only pass the relaxed strength test because the original was too tough for her? After a long struggle she’ll eventually heave maybe one man out of the building before the fire consumes it… in the same amount of time it would have taken her male colleague to bring out both men.

The Fire Brigade strength and fitness tests weren’t designed to exclude women… They were designed to ensure the safety of those in danger! They were designed to ensure that the rescuers were physically capable of rescuing!! Do you notice how men have little hips and big shoulders? Not only is it cute, it makes them 1000x more efficient at lifting and carrying heavy loads than compared to a woman of the same height and weight. That isn’t a result of patriarchy, that is the result of biology and human anatomy, so go sue Mother Nature if you think it is sexist.

Lowering the strength standards has put innocent lives in jeopardy. It has nothing to do with real equality, and everything to do with something as trivial as male:female ratios in certain fields of service. Guess what? It is all because of deluded third wave feminists who consistently fail to look at the bigger picture and are so consumed by their victim complexes and their delusion of being oppressed by the patriarchy that they can’t comprehend the harsh reality of any given situation. 

- fraudulentfeminist

^Same reason why combat units in our military should not relax their standards just so women have an easier time getting into those units.

What the FUCK

Why do some people have the ridiculous, idiotic, misogynist notion that women are not as strong as men? What the fuck?

That Fire Brigade Bullshit probably happened because the only women to apply weren’t physically fit.

But lemme explain to you a thing. Lemme explain to you ALL a thing.

WOMEN ARE NOT WEAKER THAN MEN.

WOMEN ARE NOT WEAKER THAN MEN.

WOMEN ARE NOT WEAKER THAN MEN

SOCIETY JUST TELLS THEM THAT THEY ARE WHICH CAUSES THEM TO LOSE CONFIDENCE, CAUSING THEM TO BE WEAKER.

Fucking hell.

My dad is a deputy fire chief, and he would have some choice words for the first two responses. He has more than 35 years of experience. He first started in an entry-level position and rose through the ranks, with about eight years outside of a fire department when he was working as a senior investigator and policy analyst at the Office of the Fire Marshall. He also makes a huge effort to hire women, which unfortunately meets with a lot of resistance within the department—by the same people who are also extremely against hiring people of colour or people who aren’t heterosexual. It’s funny how easily bigotry fits into rhetoric of “safety,” isn’t it?

Firstly, women firefighters have to pass the same physical exam as men. A lot men of don’t pass it. A lot of women don’t pass it. But any woman becoming a firefighter has necessarily fulfilled the safety requirements her fitness entails. A lot of women pass the test. Unfortunately, not a lot of women actually apply, because of shitty idiotic attitudes like this. And yes, women often do better on the tests than men. It isn’t the case at all that all men do better than all women who apply. Fuck you for suggesting that.

Secondly, guess what, dipshit. There’s a lot more than goes into putting out fires and rescuing people than brute strength. That’s why there’s a lot of education as well as psychological exams that go into hiring firefighters. And it might stagger you to realize that when you’re talking about entering burning buildings and other hazardous environments, having only a bunch of people with the exact same build and physique is a huge safety risk. You know why the (equally strong, equally smart) women on my dad’s force are such an asset to the team? Because they tend to fit places that men can’t—like through a schoolbus window last month that was inaccessible to almost every firefighter present. My dad says the most effective partners have complementary builds. This often means pairing a woman with a man, as it did in this case. This particular pair often works like this: the man helps move the woman to a place he can’t fit (sometimes literally throwing her through a window). If there hadn’t been a woman, the casualties would have been much higher. And that’s just one example. It’s never a disadvantage to have people of different shapes and sizes, all fully trained and all meeting the same physical requirements of the job, who can contribute differently. 

Thirdly, I’m assuming these idiots regard muscled young white men carrying women and children over each shoulder as the Platonic form of firefighter. But it may astonish you to know that in a fire, smoke kills first. You fucking asphyxiate. That’s one reason firefighters never carry people over their shoulder (the other being that it’s extremely dangerous to deadlift a limp body when you’re wearing 80 pounds of equipment—try doing that and you’re more than likely adding to the amount of victims who need to be rescued). If you hold people up to the ceiling, they fucking asphyxiate. Obviously. So you watch too much TV if you think that’s basically the job. How do firefighters evacuate victims from burning buildings? They drag them along the floor. This is so they don’t suffocate the victim, they lead the way first to safety, and they can fully fucking see and manoeuvre through the hazardous environment. I am not strong. I am not in good shape. I could never be a firefighter without some serious physical training (unlike a ton of other women I know, and like a lot of men). Guess what. Even I can drag my 200-pound, tall, male firefighter father across the floor.

You’re not looking out for people’s safety. You’re upholding misogyny and assuming you know what you’re talking about. We do need feminism in firefighting, because it’s a fucking cesspool of white supremacist patriarchal homophobic cisphobic anti-immigrant privilege good old boys’ club bullshit. It’s based on nothing but prejudice, and emergency services should fairly represent the population they’re paid handsomely to defend. Thankfully, people are slowly steering away from this. There are more and more women becoming firefighters, and last month, a woman joined a neighbouring department to my dad’s as a deputy chief. She passed the tests. She has experience and a sterling record. She also has a Master in Gender Studies, and she’s not very big.

Bolded the part that points out you don’t even want a group of people who all have the same characteristics and strengths and motivations involved in saving lives for both obvious and less obvious reasons (well, if you’re a cisgender, straight, white, able-bodied, and/or otherwise privileged.)

I’d just like to add that there are various studies in other fields that show that diversity leads to the best results (for corporate boards and profitability, for example) because you get lots of different experiences and skills and ideas and are therefore more likely to arrive at the best solutions, rather than similar people just affirming similar ideas because there aren’t as many to choose from.

So the above explanation of the effectiveness of complementary teams makes so much sense.

(via themindprobe)



"You know what they do in San Francisco, some in the gay community there, they want to get people so if they got the stuff they’ll have a ring, you shake hands, and the ring’s got a little thing where you cut your finger. Really. It’s that kind of vicious stuff, which would be the equivalent of murder." —

Pat Robertson thinks the gays are trying to murder us with secret AIDS rings

He’s way behind on this one — this particular gay panic rumor has been around for decades, as documented and debunked by Snopes. Repeatedly.

(via thebicker)

Charming.



buzzfeed:

This is what gay rights look like in Russia. Peaceful protestors are overrun by anti-gay violence and police prosecution.  

(via esseekay)



kla1991:

pollums:

appolsaucy:

good-idea-poorly-executed:

lostwiginity:

Interesting.

This is actually really interesting.

I love that he pointed out that it’s different when men and women are objectified on film, not only because of the way our society views men and women, but also in the specific way those shots are framed

When consuming media it’s so important to remember that filmmakers and ad companies have so many tools at their disposal that the average viewer is not even aware of. The way a scene is set, the way the camera moves, which parts of a person are included in the fame, the number of seconds the camera views each particular part of a person. All of these things very subtly evoke responses from us. We don’t notice them because we aren’t supposed to notice them—if they are doing their job right, everything feels seamless and correct to the viewer. And even if we do notice, we may not be able to articulate it because most of us haven’t studied filmmaking techniques. 

If you think you are 100% impenetrable to the effects of the content you view, you are deluding yourself.

excellent explanation of the Male Gaze, a must watch

Done by a guy. Still, done well.

(via stfusexists)