“…she stopped paying close attention to his words and when at red lights, examined the rain drops spattering on the windshield so intently that she almost stared right through them. Each drop seemed stuck on the glass, until another drop landed on it and they rolled down the window together, ending in a climactic splash.”


Sara: English major/Gender and Sexuality Studies minor, working at a nonprofit that gets young women ready for and interested in running for office/maybe soon applying to grad school, writer, clarinetist.

I post and reblog: things I think are pretty, things that intrigue me, things I'm a fan of, and things I care about.

Common themes include: books, writing, movies, more books, cozy beds, breakfasts, Doctor Who, Sherlock, feminist issues, and occasional pieces of my life.




castithann:

wait do men actually think that women shave their legs regularly in the winter because son I have some news for you

(via dearheart17)


5 months ago • 182,008 notes • originally from castithann
#hahahahaNOPE #reblogged #text #body hair #shaving #winter

"By insisting that we aren’t ‘hairy, man-hating lesbians’, we are telling the Patriarchy that lesbians, women with hair and women with valid reasons to hate men aren’t worthy of our concern or our support.
That is not a feminism I support." — Louise Pennington on throwing our feminist sisters under the bus with the “hairy, man-hating lesbian” trope.  (via jenniferswag)

(Source: girldwarf, via valeria2067)



sleepysleepypretty:

having body hair annoys me but removing body hair also annoys me and also life, life annoys me

(Source: we-unhallowed, via worldfallsdown)


9 months ago • 629,893 notes • originally from we-unhallowed
#so much this #accurate #reblogged #text #body hair #life

colsandbradders:

amymexy:

transhumanisticpanspermia:

I had this argument a few days ago. It was quite the success.

Someone came back and commented with a completely useless comment, so I just had to take the opportunity to take the moral low ground and sass them out.

Quitting when you’re on top is for people who don’t like to have fun.

Also, if I’m going to leave the other people un-anonymous, I’m staying that way too. It’s only fair. Half of you already know my last name anyway.

wow can i just hug you? 

FOUR FOR YOU JOHN HUGHES

YOU GO JOHN HUGHES

(via dearheart17)



I think it’s unattractive when a woman has a whole bunch of scars & scratches on her legs and shit. 

oldfilmsflicker:

droidguy1119:

niggaimdeadass:

arjanakaffine:

Women are suppose to be nurturing, if you can’t care for your-damn-self especially something that is as elegant and delicate as your legs how the hell are you suppose to care for me too. 

I’m just saying.

 this is truly the fucking stupidest thing i’ve ever read

“how the hell are you suppose to care for me too”

soundin like a goddamn bitch

what century do we live in again?

Hmm…needs work…

Here we go:

(via oldfilmsflicker)



Leg hair update:

Four weeks ago, I decided to quit shaving my legs, for reasons explained here.

As you can imagine, my legs are properly hairy at this point, so here are a few reflections and conclusions.

Things I like:

  • It’s lovely to just not worry about leg hair, in terms of deciding what to wear and in terms of making showers only feel lovely and not like a chore.
  • Ignoring silly things that don’t make sense to me, such as the idea that an essential part of my womanliness or of my apparent cleanliness has anything to do with removing my leg hair. Ridiculous.

Things I don’t like:

  • Yeah, it’s occasionally hard to escape the feeling that I don’t look right. So sue me.
  • I do miss the feeling of my legs being smooth.
  • And this one’s a kicker: DC summers are the perfect godawful combination of hot and humid that means being acceptable for interviews/jobs (let’s hope I get one) just can’t mean wearing full pantyhose. Knee highs don’t work because I don’t wear skirts that long. I thought I had a solution in thigh highs, and while I do think they’re kind of sexy, they seem way too prone to holes and runs for garments that cost around $10 a pair. 

So…now what?

  • I feel like I’ve given the no-shave route a decent chance.
  • But I don’t think it’s something I’m going to continue.
  • Even though I find it annoying to deal with, it still feels simpler to just shave my legs and be done with it.
  • I still don’t like fucked up standards of beauty and that ad that targeted kids is still unacceptable, but my life just feels more comfortable and easy if I shave my legs. 
  • I will, however, be incredibly lax about it, in terms of how careful I am to get every damn hair (I won’t be) and how often I shave (not very). Because if I’m going to conform, I’m gonna do it like I’m a petulant child, dammit.

tl;dr: Despite the benefits of not shaving, my life is easier and my legs feel nicer if I do, so I will, but not well, because I won’t give standards of femininity/beauty the satisfaction.



Life things: 

  • I have another interview, totally separate from the job agency one! EXCITEMENT.
  • My ultimate solution for workplace acceptability: KNEE HIGHS. Which I think are kind of sexy, too, so I am very pleased.
  • My life at college seems so distant and unreal, and I ache to be with my friends. (I am lucky enough to have seen friends from home a bit and one friend from college since graduating, but not everyone is so easily accessible.)
  • I read a whole book last night. I looked at my watch and saw that it was a little after 1am, and I thought, oh, I’ll just finish this, and then when I looked at my watch upon finishing it, IT WAS A LITTLE PAST 3AM. Oops. And thus, my productivity capacity for the day has vastly decreased. 



dearheart17 answered your question: So, remember this ad I reblogged a couple times?…

I have gone through phases of letting everything go & waxing everything off. The only person it seems to matter to has been me.

I guess I would be concerned if potential employers were examining my legs…

But yay, that’s as it should be, I think: why should it matter to anyone else?

Good to hear.



valeria2067 replied to your post: So, remember this ad I reblogged a couple times?…

In my case, it takes precisely three hours before some kind of noticable (to me) stubble comes back after I shave my legs. And every time I shave them, I end up with some kind of irritation or little nick. I hate, hate, hate shaving. Go you!

Ugh, that’s so annoying. 

Boo to shaving!

And thanks!



lillianbassman replied to your post: So, remember this ad I reblogged a couple times?…

If you wear tights to any interviews, they won’t be able to tell. That way, you can curb any “first meeting bad impressions” that might hinder you getting a job if there’s some uptight boss that hates the idea of hairy lady flesh.

I like your thinking. 

What I don’t like: wearing anything on my legs in the DC summertime. No, really, we were all really excited that by 6pm, it was only 85 degrees outside.

"ONLY" 85, and in the early evening, too—that wasn’t the high.

And right now, at freaking 1 in the morning, it’s…79, feels like 81.

Maybe I can manage it if I’m not Metro-ing and have the benefit of going straight from an air conditioned car to an air conditioned building…?



So, remember this ad I reblogged a couple times? (I refer you to Alex’s second reblog because her continued commentary is interesting.)

It got me thinking about body hair and why I deal with the chore of removing it (from legs and armpits), and I’ve decided that I’m tired of shaving my legs. 

Why?

  • It’s time and effort that could be way better-spent.
  • It makes showering, which I otherwise rather enjoy (I like the feeling of hot water, I like the feeling of getting clean, and I like paying attention to and caring for my body) feel like such a chore.
  • It irritates my skin. I mean, no matter how carefully you do it, it’s gonna scrape some skin off, which leaves my legs kind of itchy and kind of dry.
  • In parts of spring and fall, when I sometimes wear something that covers my legs and sometimes do not, I hate feeling like I need to make that decision based on the state of my leg hair, or that in order to wear something, I need to shave my legs first.
  • I cannot fathom any practical reason in my own life to do so.
  • I cannot fathom any aesthetic reason in my own life to do so that doesn’t bother me with its messed up standards of beauty and femininity, except maybe enjoying the feeling of having smooth legs, which I think I should be able to get used to not having.
  • As I said in a reblog of that ad, I recently accidentally went several days longer than usual without shaving, and it felt glorious.

So, I’m not going to do it anymore, at least for quite a long while.

Things that will not happen:

  • I will not stop shaving my armpits, at least at first. I am not really a fan of armpit hair in general, regardless of gender identity/presentation, and I continue to enjoy the smoothness and ease of care that comes with shaving it. By all means, if you prefer having it, that’s also fine with me—other people’s armpits are not things I have strong opinions about, except if they are too smelly and too close to my face. Otherwise, do as you wish.
  • I will not make this blog all about this decision—I might briefly mention it every so often, but if this is not your cup of tea, never fear.
  • I will not preach that anyone else should do the same. Because to me, with respect to people’s bodies, what feminism ultimately has to say is that each person gets to make their own decisions about their own body. I do not believe that people who shave their legs or otherwise remove leg hair are necessarily deluded or oppressed or whathaveyou. People do things for all sorts of reasons, and it’s neither my place to decide I know why or to decide that they are wrong. What I do think is wrong is sending the message to children that to grow up into women, they need to start removing their body hair. The state of one’s body hair does not a woman make, and let’s please lay off body policing children.

Anyway, these are my thoughts, and I hope this works out.

It’s occurred to me that a possible hitch in this plan might be wanting to make a good impression at job interviews/at work in general (should anyone actually hire me—ha).

Has anyone had any problems with this (or know of someone who has)?



lillianbassman:

jomarch:

neil-gaiman:

Amanda Palmer, on Twitter, after seeing this advert and getting very sad:

i don’t have a tumblr account (i’m sorting that), but if i did i’d put that photo up there. do it for me. it’ll make me feel better.

And, well, I have a Tumblr…
You can follow the conversation about the photograph, advertising, age, freedom, independence, body hair etc. via a lot of retweets at https://twitter.com/amandapalmer
And you can talk about it here.
“brave & sexy are in the mind, not on the leg or under the pits.”

:(
Can we please leave the body hair of children alone?

I wish ALL THE TIME that I had never started shaving. But I reached a certain age and thought that it was a step of growing up. In fifth grade (I’m pretty sure it was) all of the other girls were talking about it and I felt like I would stick out if I didn’t, even though there basically wasn’t anything there. And now I’m too sensitive to use a razor and end up waxing because after years of this stupid cultural psychology getting into my head, I can’t stand to just leave my damn body hair be. But the fact of the matter is if I’d never started, if I’d never felt like I had to in order to survive the hell that is early adolescence, I would have been much better off.

^Exactly, yes.
This past weekend and through until Wednesday morning, we didn’t have power and so it became very inconvenient to maintain shaved legs. I guess I could have shaved them in the hotel the one day/night we stayed there, but I was all tuckered out and just not. in. the. mood. When we were at home, we didn’t have any hot water, and in my experience, drawing a razor across goose-bumps leads to painful and kind of unappealing razor-burn.
Anyway, the point is, to maintain optimal smoothness, I have to shave every other day or so. Because of the big storm and power outages, I didn’t shave my legs from either Thursday or Friday until Wednesday night.
And you know what? I just didn’t give a fuck, I walked around all over the place in skirts and dresses, and no one cared and I didn’t care and it was glorious.
But instead of continuing with that, given the opportunity for the smoothness I’ve become so accustomed to, I went for it.
If only I hadn’t developed that habit or if I could get myself to back away from shaving for real.
Because if I could get myself used to it, then why would I ever deal with it again? If it wouldn’t be to please myself, why the hell should cater my leg hair to please anyone else?

lillianbassman:

jomarch:

neil-gaiman:

Amanda Palmer, on Twitter, after seeing this advert and getting very sad:

i don’t have a tumblr account (i’m sorting that), but if i did i’d put that photo up there. do it for me. it’ll make me feel better.

And, well, I have a Tumblr…

You can follow the conversation about the photograph, advertising, age, freedom, independence, body hair etc. via a lot of retweets at https://twitter.com/amandapalmer

And you can talk about it here.

“brave & sexy are in the mind, not on the leg or under the pits.”

:(

Can we please leave the body hair of children alone?

I wish ALL THE TIME that I had never started shaving. But I reached a certain age and thought that it was a step of growing up. In fifth grade (I’m pretty sure it was) all of the other girls were talking about it and I felt like I would stick out if I didn’t, even though there basically wasn’t anything there. And now I’m too sensitive to use a razor and end up waxing because after years of this stupid cultural psychology getting into my head, I can’t stand to just leave my damn body hair be. But the fact of the matter is if I’d never started, if I’d never felt like I had to in order to survive the hell that is early adolescence, I would have been much better off.

^Exactly, yes.

This past weekend and through until Wednesday morning, we didn’t have power and so it became very inconvenient to maintain shaved legs. I guess I could have shaved them in the hotel the one day/night we stayed there, but I was all tuckered out and just not. in. the. mood. When we were at home, we didn’t have any hot water, and in my experience, drawing a razor across goose-bumps leads to painful and kind of unappealing razor-burn.

Anyway, the point is, to maintain optimal smoothness, I have to shave every other day or so. Because of the big storm and power outages, I didn’t shave my legs from either Thursday or Friday until Wednesday night.

And you know what? I just didn’t give a fuck, I walked around all over the place in skirts and dresses, and no one cared and I didn’t care and it was glorious.

But instead of continuing with that, given the opportunity for the smoothness I’ve become so accustomed to, I went for it.

If only I hadn’t developed that habit or if I could get myself to back away from shaving for real.

Because if I could get myself used to it, then why would I ever deal with it again? If it wouldn’t be to please myself, why the hell should cater my leg hair to please anyone else?

(via pipilottirist)



neil-gaiman:

Amanda Palmer, on Twitter, after seeing this advert and getting very sad:

i don’t have a tumblr account (i’m sorting that), but if i did i’d put that photo up there. do it for me. it’ll make me feel better.

And, well, I have a Tumblr…
You can follow the conversation about the photograph, advertising, age, freedom, independence, body hair etc. via a lot of retweets at https://twitter.com/amandapalmer
And you can talk about it here.
“brave & sexy are in the mind, not on the leg or under the pits.”

:(
Can we please leave the body hair of children alone?

neil-gaiman:

Amanda Palmer, on Twitter, after seeing this advert and getting very sad:

i don’t have a tumblr account (i’m sorting that), but if i did i’d put that photo up there. do it for me. it’ll make me feel better.

And, well, I have a Tumblr…

You can follow the conversation about the photograph, advertising, age, freedom, independence, body hair etc. via a lot of retweets at https://twitter.com/amandapalmer

And you can talk about it here.

“brave & sexy are in the mind, not on the leg or under the pits.”

:(

Can we please leave the body hair of children alone?